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For me, a lover is someone I have sex with on a regular basis but don't have any other sort of relationship with. I enjoy sharing sex with them, exploring sex together. Someone to have sex with ... well I don't think that I would have regular or semi-regular sex with someone who I didn't connect with sexually. (HA HA HA have me reconsider during my next dry spell). But seriously I don't have one night stands, I have auditions. and if you don't get a call back ... LMAO
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Are you sure you are only 29... and is that REALLY you
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3/25/2017 5:13 am |
I also haven't felt Loved like that. Yes, It would be nice to have a lover, the way you put it. But also, the wining and dining part of it - would make me feel like that person loves, and wants ME, as much as I love them, as they have taken the time to make ME happy too! THEN, when both are sexually aroused by the other, the sex would be much more gratifying and sexually free to enjoy each others bodies! For me, my choice is to find a lover, over someone to just have sex with. Being curious and asking questions is a good thing!
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[image] I like this definition because I think it covers the differences in peoples preferences. Your fantasy is a person who is an incredible lover, other people 'romantic' fantasy. Most people are complex and have a variety of needs which usually change over time. The important thing is that you can participate in/fulfill your partner's fantasy. Trust in your feelings.
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3/25/2017 5:29 am |
I call them "girlfriend", unless it's casual, then I call them "chick".
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I'm guilty of this. Guys I've had sex with are lovers. I never really gave it much thought. I guess its because that's the term people expect to hear, even if it isn't the most accurate term.
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A lover, to me, indicates a connection that's advanced beyond the sexual. I've had regular fuckbuddies who never qualify for the term lover because there's no mental connection or empathy or even consideration. Not that that's a bad thing, per se, just that those are purely physical relationships. A man who gets called lover by me is one who knows (AND REMEMBERS, WHY IS THAT SO FUCKING HARD TO DO!) things about me that are more personal that just what it takes to get me off. The downside is that the word lover has an adulterous tang to it to a lot of folks. That and a lot of folks use it so often that it has zero meaning other than as a nickname!
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Lover, given the criteria of pleasure and knowledge and the bodily response, even if it wasn't a long term relationship
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What would you rather find, a lover or someone to have sex with? It depends on the person. There are women here who I could imagine being lovers and there are some I would probably only have sex with. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I think for me its all about giving to each other in ways that no one else can. Its about companionship, communication and great sex!!!
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<--- (takes a deep sip of coffee, reads, then)....haaaa To a degree I think referring to someone as a "lover" is really but being more polite than saying this chic "I used to hook-up with". But I've had lovers like you describe, though perhaps, in my case anyway, perhaps "fellow sexual adventurers" might be more precise. I've also had a few friends that became lovers, and lovers that became friends too. Old Ponies, and New Friends Sweets, on HNW 10 Most Expense Places to Live [post 3312759] My Private Blog – Tell me All your Secrets
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I use a couple of designations for the people I am having sex with or had sex with. I call a couple just my ex-boyfriends, because they were full on sexual relationships with great love and affection. Ex-lover is a person I had sex with and some kind of romantic relationship and sex. That guy I had sex with, is when we had sex but there wasn't a lot of time spent in that part of the relationship. And partner is reserved for the person that I plan on spending my life with, have sex with, and love. Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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I want a partner who is interested in making love not just having sex. Making love is engaging in a lot of foreplay, verbal as well the physical kind, kissing, caressing, etc. The goal of making love is to provide the maximum pleasure for your partner. Interestingly, I find doing so brings maximum pleasure to myself. Making love to someone does not, by itself, make them a lover. Lovers share reserved parts of their souls, and also show care for the partner in many non-sexual ways. It is definitely a relationship between souls that includes sexual methods as part of that expression. Yes, I have had a lover or two and the last one was awesome. If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin." I always behave. Preferably not well.
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Semantics again. How do you define the term lover? Someone I care for and have had sex with and am in an active love relationship with. If the relationship is over as far as the sex goes then an ex or former, goes in front of lover though I most likely wouldn't use the term lover except between the two of us. What would you rather find, a lover or someone to have sex with? A lover is preferable to a loveless sexual relationship. Vive La Difference
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I was actually just having this discussion with someone.. I do have lovers, and there are also booty calls. As a lover, i enjoy the time i spend with a woman outside of the bedroom as well. Someone, who gets to a level of intimacy and a comfort level where i don't have to lay in bed watching television without having to painfully withold in gas. A booty call is someone who doesn't want the personal interaction, but just the immediate gratification and nothing else. They can be fun, but without any of the interaction on a personal level, i get bored and quickly lose interest.
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Perhaps it is another ones of those things where it's better to show, than to try to explain. Getting Your Flirt On Old Ponies, and New Friends Sweets, on HNW [post 3312759] My Private Blog – Tell me All your Secrets
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I LOVE it when your line lights up I had a lot of sex but not so many lovers. then I had lovers. I prefer lovers since there is more intensity, more intimacy and more passion, not just sex. knowledge is always a good thing. I liked KK's defs. although I think I consider lovers partners until they prove their not partner material...........it's more or less an audition...lol you are opening up, trusting, really giving, sharing.......yanno? You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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I have to agree with your description of determining the difference between a lover and a person you have sex with. I would describe each the same, maybe not as eloquently.
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Yes! Send me an email, either here or at the address I left on your private blog area and we'll figure out a time and place to meet!
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3/27/2017 2:22 am |
I think everyone wants to find a lover, but truthfully most lovers start as sexual partners( i like that better than "woman I had sex with"), and be coming lovers is an outgrowth of a mush larger relationship, or at least it is for me. But to be honest, right now, for me, that is all kinda pie in the sky. I can't even seem to find an attractive woman who is willing to sit and have a drink with me. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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I think you nailed it yourself: "My thought process is that two people focused on each other's pleasure...and not concerned with their own...will have no choice but to enjoy the experience. Dare I say have mind-blowing 'fun'? Isn't it great to explore around another person's body to find all those delicious spots that drive them wild...and make those helpless, uncontrollable sounds? That's a lover! " As you know you can both "make love" as well as "fuck" with the same person both are wonderful initself and some times you need love other-times just a good fuck... I consider myself mostly a "lover" since i focus on giving her the ultimate pleasure and hope she take cares of my need and my pleasure and judging from the feedback i get from the ladies i guess im doing something right....
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I will get right on that... doubt it will be any time soon, however, I will keep searching.
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My answer is one you don't particularly like . . . I open to various possibilities. Once I define something specific I am, by definition, limiting my possibilities. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I have kinda given up on it as well, hence the "not anytime soon" part... lol
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I'm greedy ...so I'm going with I'd like to find a partner that is a lover I can have sex with .... check that, make it have lots and lots of sex with (in fact make it a life time of having sex together). ...but that's just me and I'm greedy -- or as usually prefer to say it: "I play for keeps - not just to score"
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But I love everyone,...and I love your eyes, so it would be making love.
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Well put..For me having a lover is on a deeper level and the people you have sex with is just lust...depends on what you need in a person...you looking for a lusty moment or a mindblowing moment..sometimes a lusty moment can also turn out beeing mindblowing and if you start seeing that person more it can become a lover as well...
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For me, a lover is someone I have sex with on a regular basis but don't have any other sort of relationship with. I enjoy sharing sex with them, exploring sex together.
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Thought I wanted someone til I found out about those hidden cameras in his room. Taping us without me knowing, then posting. Im liviid. Wish I could warn the WARR ACRES OK ladies about that meth head!
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I would want to find someone to love me and I in turn love them back unconditionally Period!!
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A lover is someone you share intimacy with on the most intimate level. Is that concise enough for you my sweet? Thoughts from the Garden...
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